Suicide Crisis Hotlines

Don’t be ashamed to reach out for support when you need it. We love you and you can get through this.

  • If you need to talk, the 988 Lifeline is here.

    At the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, we understand that life's challenges can sometimes be difficult. Whether you're facing mental health struggles, emotional distress, alcohol or drug use concerns, or just need someone to talk to, our caring counselors are here for you. You are not alone.

    The 988 Lifeline is available 24/7/365. Your conversations are free and confidential. Call, Text, or Chat 988

  • Samaritans

    Whatever you're going through, a Samaritan will face it with you. We're here 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

    Call us any time, day or night

    Whatever you're going through, you can call us any time, from any phone for FREE.

    Call 116 123

  • The Trevor Project is the leading suicide prevention and crisis intervention nonprofit organization for LGBTQ+ young people. We provide information & support to LGBTQ+ young people 24/7, all year round.

    Call, text, or chat with us anytime you need support. If you are thinking about suicide, or feeling lonely, we’re here to listen.

how do i protect myself sexually?

Condoms, PrEP, and DoxyPEP each protect against different sexual health risks, and using them together gives us (black men who have sex with men) the strongest defense. PrEP (a daily pill or long-acting shot) is over 99% effective at preventing HIV but doesn’t block other STIs. Condoms reduce HIV and STI transmission by acting as a barrier, while DoxyPEP (a 200mg antibiotic taken within 72 hours after sex) significantly lowers the risk of bacterial STIs like chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis. Using all three offers layered protection—helping us stay safe, take control of our health, and protect our community without sacrificing pleasure. You can get STI testing and PrEP/DoxyPEP prescriptions from your doctor or you can get these things for free (without insurance) using sites like Mistr or QCare+. Free testing and condoms may also be available at your local community clinics.

  • PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis) is a once-daily or on-demand pill regimen that reduces the risk of getting HIV from sex by up to 99% when taken consistently (CDC, 2023). Despite its effectiveness, Black men who have sex with men (MSM)—including bisexual men—are underprescribed PrEP compared to white MSM. In fact, only 13% of Black MSM who could benefit from PrEP were prescribed it in 2022 (CDC, 2023), despite accounting for a disproportionate share of new HIV diagnoses. For bi+ Black men, access is further complicated by stigma, invisibility in sexual health outreach, and fear of being labeled. But the truth is: PrEP is for anyone who wants to protect their health while still experiencing pleasure. PrEP is empowerment—without judgment.

    References:

  • DoxyPEP (Doxycycline Post-Exposure Prophylaxis) is an emerging sexual health strategy that involves taking a single dose of doxycycline (200mg) within 72 hours after unprotected sex to reduce the risk of contracting bacterial STIslike chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis. In recent studies, DoxyPEP reduced the incidence of these infections by up to 66% among MSM and trans women (Molina et al., 2023). While not a replacement for condoms or routine testing, DoxyPEP gives bi+ men another layer of protection—especially for those navigating multiple partners, hookup culture, or limited access to healthcare. Talk to a provider about whether it’s right for you—because protecting your sexual health shouldn’t mean sacrificing your freedom.

    References:

    • Molina, J. M., Charreau, I., Spire, B., et al. (2023). Post-exposure doxycycline to prevent sexually transmitted infections in men who have sex with men and transgender women. The New England Journal of Medicine, 388(15), 1375–1385. https://doi.org/10.1056/NEJMoa2217075

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FAQs

What is Bisexual+ sexuality?

Bisexual+ (Bi+) sexuality refers to the attraction—romantic, emotional, or sexual—to more than one gender. This umbrella includes identities such as bisexual, pansexual, fluid, omnisexual, and queer. People who identify as Bi+ may be attracted to the same gender and other genders, but that doesn’t mean they’re equally attracted to all genders, or that attraction is always expressed the same way. Bi+ people exist in all communities, though they’re often erased, misunderstood, or pressured to “pick a side,” especially in Black and LGBTQ+ spaces.

is a bromance a man crush considered a bi or gay feeling?

It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.

does it make me gay/bi if i like anal?

No—liking anal sex doesn’t define your sexuality. Sexual orientation is about who you’re attracted to, not what sex acts you enjoy. Enjoying anal stimulation—whether giving, receiving, or both—is about your body and pleasure, not your label.

Do I have to come out or disclose my sexuality?

No—you don’t have to come out or disclose your sexuality unless you want to.Coming out is a personal choice, not a requirement. You are valid whether you’re out to the world, just a few people, or only yourself. Your sexuality is yours to name, own, and protect.

There are many reasons people choose not to come out—safety, family, culture, religion, mental health, or simply not wanting to explain themselves. That’s okay. Privacy is not shame. You are not hiding—you’re choosing what’s best for you. Your identity is valid. You get to decide.

can i be bisexual if i never had sex before?

Yes. You can be bisexual—even if you’ve never had sex, kissed anyone, or even been in a relationship.

Sexuality is about attraction, not experience. If you feel emotionally, romantically, or sexually attracted to more than one gender, that’s enough to identify as bi (or bi+, pan, fluid, etc.)—no “proof” required.You get to define who you are—on your own timeline, at your own pace.

How can I meet other bisexual+ black guys?

If you’re looking to meet other bisexual+ Black men, Bi+ Black Men is your home. We created this space to fight the erasure and isolation so many of us face. Join our private online community on the BAND app to connect in real time, join chatrooms (including NSFW if requested), and find support, friendship, or more. We also post empowering content daily on Instagram and host the Bi+ Black Men podcast, available on all platforms. Whether you’re out, questioning, or exploring—you’re not alone. Visit bisexualblackmen.com and start building real connections with brothers who get it.